Red Flags🚩

Red flags🚩

Love is unexplainable!

I came out of the shower with a blood shot eyes red as fire, "I need to get a new glasses" I said to my mum

"my eyes hurt so bad." 

Unknowing to her, the man I called mine woke me up with a call telling me that he is no longer mine. I spent the day in my room silently crying  and wishing I was dreaming. 

Heartbreak sucks right? 

But did I see it coming? 

Yessss! I did and I ignored the signs, the red flags!🚩 

I noticed him posting other girls and calling them "just friends", I noticed he no longer picked my calls, I noticed he took a lot of time before he responded to my messages, I noticed that he didn't have the burning desire for me anymore, I noticed  he no longer finds me appealing ,He didn't have the desire to kiss me on my neck where it makes me melt, peck me, or make me smile as usual. I thought it was because we don't spend much time in the same space and he needed more time to concentrate on his work and his life. After all, why disturb my man when he's building something for us. I wasn't idle either as I was working tirelessly to build something too nevertheless, I never lost interest in him, neither did the fire of my passion and desire go out. 

I noticed all of these but I ignored them until the mountain came to Mohammed.

I think I should be on the top list of people who hates the gender that God created before creating my gender, but the plot twist is funny. I have honest men in my life that will look at me and not lie to me. 

No matter how blinded you are by love, the red flags cannot be hidden. You will know when someone is not into you again. The truth is that fighting for someone to be yours means the person is not meant to be yours in the first place. Whatever is meant to be yours wouldn't stress you, rather it would be your peace. Sometimes you are the author of your own heartbreak.

 

I have noticed my gender to be delusional, we always think we have found the perfect one.l when we meet someone that makes us tick. Even when the red colors of the flag is so bright and blinding, my gender would still allow their emotion to cloud their sense of reasoning. One truth that can be debated is that the journey of love is never perfect and won't be perfect. We all have our flaws and imperfections  and it takes more than just love for a relationship to work.  Every relationship goes through phases, so its actually left to you and your chosen person to make it work.

To everyone with a scar in their heart pierced by the one who claims to love them, I hope you pay more attention to every sign in your relationship and address a red flag whenever you notice it. True love may be hard to come by but it doesn't mean that you should ever give up on it. I'm sure that you will eventually find love but when you find it, I hope it works for you while being kind to you.

I love you and as always, I am here rooting for you.

Love and white roses.