Embracing love: Navigating the season of affection

Hey lovers, it’s the season of love, and after surviving the under-the-Christmas trees matching outfits, and cute pictures in December I know I am going to survive this month too. Love is in the air despite how hard the economy is I can still see how you all are showering love on your significant other, to be very honest it’s so amazing to witness and behold. But still, you all should take it easy on single pringles like us.

I love, love, and despite how much of a 'hard girl' I daily portray myself to be, I am a big sucker for love. However, adulthood and a series of heartbreaks have forced me into this shell I don’t know when I am coming out from, and thinking about Valentine's Day, all I can say is being in love as a teenager is better than this adulthood love, then all that matters is a fake rose and with a love letter that will make you giggle all day, love was genuine, childish and sincere. 

It was simple; about our favorite love songs, our best romance novels, and looking forward to seeing them in school the next morning. It got better when you did things together, like taking long aimless walks home and sharing one piece of Fan Yogo ice cream in two. There were no insecurities, only jealous admirers hoping to get a taste of what you had. You'd agree that it was blissful. 

Fast forward to adulthood, you cling to someone scarily because you don't know how long they will stay for. They stay for longer than expected and the moment you begin to get comfortable, they snap the stool of reassurance from under your buttocks and smash your hope of a forever-happy-after into bits. You start wondering if you were good enough or whether or not you are deserving of love, true love. Flash News! You deserve genuine love, one filled with compassion and commitment, but only a deserving person can give that to you. So, my advice for you, if you are a single soul like myself is not to be desperate to fall into the arms of someone who doesn't know how to love themselves. How can they love you?

People equate sex, gifts, money, and attention to love, but it is more than that. It is feeling safe in the absence of these things, knowing fully well that in their imperfection or inadequacy, your lover will never let you feel alone or alienated for what they offer you. A kind partner. If you are reading this and you already have one, make sure you never take it for granted. And if you are searching and waiting for the right person, here is a clue, the right person will wait with you, fight for you, and get ready before you, just so that they can help you to prepare to fulfill your dreams. 

It has been said that love is not enough, I beg to differ, love is enough when it is with the right person because it will be the source of your partnership. I hope you find your soul mate soon. I love you and I am here cheering you on🥰❤️